Chastity: Do You Really Need a Keyholder?

Many years ago, I was the one who initiated the discussion of chastity in our relationship.  Diane was open to it and the experiment began.  There were a few failed attempts to make it work.  During those trial periods, in order to get used to the feel and discomfort of the cage, I was given the freedom to "self lock" and release myself when it became too uncomfortable.   Diane grew impatient with me and my whining and the whole idea was shelved until I was given a "last chance" in late 2014.

We officially began my "lock up" at midnight on 1/1/2015 and we are still going strong.  Fortunately, I have a loving and controlling keyholder.  Many people aren't as fortunate, or at least that's the way that I see it.  

But the fact is that most men who give chastity a try don't have a keyholder.  Perhaps many wish they had one, but there are probably some who are just find without one.

I found an interesting article on Medium on the subject.  I think you'll find it interesting. 

 

Why the Cage Works — Even Solo

You don’t need a Master to feel mastered.

Some of us wear the cage for:

• Discipline & Focus
  The days stretch differently when you’re denied. I write more. I scroll less. I show up cleaner in my work — and sharper in my flirtations.
• Erotic Tension Without Release
  The cage doesn’t kill desire. It concentrates it. A stranger’s cologne on the street? Devastating. A hot barista? Earth-shattering. You feel everything.
• A Different Kind of Masculinity
  Not every man needs to fuck everything that moves. Some of us find power in waiting. In choosing to ache instead of act.
• The Ritual of Restraint
  For me, locking up after Key West felt ceremonial. Vacation was over. Playtime done. Click. Time to focus.
  I felt grounded. Balanced. In control of something primal.

Who Has the Key?

• Sometimes me.
• Sometimes an app.
• Sometimes I give it to a friend and say, “Don’t give it back until I finish this creative project.”
• Sometimes it goes into a timed lockbox — no cheating, no shortcuts.
• And sometimes? I’ll lock up while I’m out of town and mail the key back home to myself. (A little delayed gratification, courtesy of the postal service.)

But lately?
No one.

And there’s a strange, electric freedom in that.
You realize you don’t need someone else to tell you “no.”
You can do that yourself. And when you do, it hits different.

This is about choosing to want. Choosing to withhold.
Choosing to feel that hungry, sexy tension throb through you with every step.

Try It. Or At Least Think About It.

If you’ve ever hovered over a product listing with curiosity…
If the idea of not being able to touch yourself makes you twitch in the best way…
If you’ve ever whispered “what if…” just once…

This is your sign.

Try it.

Lock it up.
Keep the key — or toss it.
And see who you become when your pleasure isn’t the prize — it’s the pressure.

You might find yourself walking taller.
Thinking clearer.
And feeling something you haven’t felt in years:

Aroused. Alive. A little dangerous.

Love,

 

sissy terrie  💓💓💓

 

Disciplinary Rituals

 

I've been discipline a couple of times over the last week which is something that hasn't happened in a while.   I was deserving of both punishments.  But I do think Diane's increased libido as of late played a role in both her decision to discipline me and the intensity of the discipline.

In each instance She was very calm, having thought things through before deciding to put me over Her lap. Before sending me to go put on some "punishment panties" She told me why I was being punished and how She expected me to behave properly going forward.  

After each of the spankings I was sent to the corner for thirty minutes of quiet time.  My phone was nearby with the timer set.  I could leave the corner when the alarm went off.   Unlike the picture above, Diane didn't spank me "a whole lot more."

My second discipline session was much the same except that my bottom was still sore from the first one.  I still have a slightly bruised bottom. 

Both spankings put me into a very deep subspace.  The space I'm referring to was made even deeper by the actions that followed about an hour after each of the spankings.   In a very calming but authoritative tone, She summoned me upstairs where I would drop to my knees, thank Her for my discipline and proceed to worship Her to an orgasm.

I love being Her submissive.  She knows what I need and when I need it.  I think She knows me better than myself.

Love,

sissy terrie 👄 

 

Orally Focused

 Sometimes art is more sensual and sexier than a real picture...

 

"Placing oral sex at the helm ensures no confusion about who’s getting the prime attention. When intimacy revolves around your enjoyment, there’s no more worrying whether your climax is “nice to have” or “optional.” It’s the priority—and that’s exactly how it should be in a woman-led dynamic."

Cat Boulder; Woman’s Pleasure, Front and Center

Well said.

Love,

sissy terrie 💖 

Watching Your Wife & Her Bull

There can be plenty of angst and nervousness involved the first time a cuckold is either made to or invtited to watch their wife and her lover.   I can attest to that.   I think there's often lots of pre-planning and discussion amongst the wife, lover and sometimes the cuckold before it actually happens.  I don't watch Diane and Karl as often as I used to.  These days my presence is more to serve a specific purpose, sexual or otherwise, than to just be there as a voyeur.

Here's a short piece from the tumblr blog  Ms. C & Her Cuckwife that broaches the subject: 

In a cuckold relationship, some bulls require a healthy dose of convincing before allowing the cuckold to watch. Most women who have affairs, find a lover on the side, etc. aren't necessarily into a cuckold threesome type of thing. Most men who have an affair with married women aren't into it either.

If a wife wants it, she is probably a bit hesitant to bring it up to her lover out of fear it might scare him away. It's a subject that has to be broached carefully and with some preparation.

Once a lover/Bull is accepting of a cuckold "watching" as he makes love to the wife, it still takes time to develop a certain comfort level.    A dominant wife isn't likely to ask the cuckold if he's "ready."  That's going to be her decision.  Once a bull knows the cuckold is submissive, it makes his decision to proceed a bit easier.  The more the lover is an Alpha personality the the cuckold a beta, the quicker the process can proceed.  No "buy in" from the cuckold is needed. 

Love,

sissy terrie 💗 

p.s. - I did get to watch some last night! 

Sweet Nothings

Every sissy loves to hear sweet nothings.  Despite their name, these nothings mean an awful lot!

Things like:

"You look so nice in those panties!"

"You look so pretty in a tutu."

"I love how you lick my ass!" 

So....today happens to be National Compliment Day.

Why not compliment five people today?  Especially those you love.  You may even want to compliment someone who might not be on your list of favorites.  It might make you and them feel a little better.

Most important, if you have one, compliment the Dom/me in your life.

And next, if you're a Dom/me with a sissy....please compliment them.  It means so much to us!

Love,

sissy terrie  💖 

Frills & Thrills

It doesn't take much to get a horny sissy off.

Pink panties (especially frilly ones) and a pillow or our favorite stuffed animal are usually all we need.

 If we have an audience we have chance at lasting very long.

Please, someone tell me I'm not the only one who's ever done this!!! 

Love,

sissy terrie 💕 

Size Advantage & Differences

Dominant BBW's have always been an interest of mine.  Mistress knows this and often teases me about it.

"I bet you'd love to submit to her?" She's often said to me, referring to an attractive BBW we see or someone we've met.  Maybe someday I'll get that permission.

On to my 'Thick Thursday" post...

I can relate to this submissive in many ways.  My similar lack of size in the presence of a confident woman with such a size advantage puts me in an immediate subspace.   

Photo courtesy of Big, Bitch & Bossy

If he's lucky, he and his little penis will end up in the same place I did. 

In chastity and pink panties. 

Love,

sissy terrie 💓 

Pleasing Her Sissy-Style

When Her Lover's not around, Mistress has one fewer option when it comes to being sexually pleased.  In my current state I am in no position to fill in for Karl (not that I ever was) and besides, I am way out of practice.  The last time I penetrated Her (not that deeply) was a long, long, long time ago.

So since I'm like this...

..and Mistress is "in the mood" for some penetration, this is usually Her preferred option:

So last night, I spent time sucking on the short end of this face-harness strap-on dildo while She smothered and rode my face. 

I good time was had by all.   

Love,

sissy terrie 💓 

CRM & Feelings of Femininity

In the business world CRM is an acronym for Customer Relationship Management.  The old adage is that businesses get 80% of their revenue from 20% of their customers.  It's a pretty general rule of thumb to expect that.  Of course it varies by industry but the point is that to be successful, you have to keep your customers happy.

I recently placed a lingerie order with Wacoal (with Diane's permission of course) and a few days later received a follow up email from the company.

When I get emails like this, it brings a smile to my face and a nice warm feeling of femininity in my soul.

Love,

sissy terrie 💗 

p.s.  If you click on the Fit Experts link below, you can book a virtual consultation.  Go ahead, just do it!Be brave and experience a fuller sense of femininity.

 

 

            Hi Terry! 

            Thank you for shopping at Wacoal.  We appreciate our loyal 

            customers.  Our Fit Experts are here for you, so please reac

            out if you have any questions.

            We look forward to seeing you again!

 

Lingerie Discussions

 It wasn't a typical conversation between a husband and wife, but one between a Dominant Wife (Diane) and Her sissy cuckold (me)...

"I'm not sure I like it" Diane said.

"Why not?  It looks great on You" i said in my most flattering and submissive voice.

"Thanks, but he might not like it" She whispered to me.  He = Her lover Karl.

"i'm sure he will" i assured Her as She looked at herself in the mirror.

"If not, i'll give it to you.  I know you'll love it" She laughed.

"Now i hope he doesn't like it" i said. 

We giggled like two girls.

It wasn't a particularly FemDom moment, but a very intimate one.  Her desire to please Her alpha lover Karl increases my own desire to please Her even more.  I don't ever see myself in competition with him.  I please Her in ways he does not and vice versa.  I'm incredibly grateful that I can share such moments with my loving Wife.

Love,

sissy terrie  👄👄👄

Female Led Relationships - Rules are Rules

Happy Sunday!

I can't count the number of times when, in the midst of some type of minor disagreement or my own asking D about something She's simply looked at me and said "Rules are Rules."  Rarely did those three words not put an immediate end to our discussion.

Successful Female Led Relationships probably have several hard and fast rules.  Ours certainly does. Though Diane has allowed me some rare exceptions, the rules have benefited us in many, many ways.

Here's a short and interesting article by Mistress Raven that you might enjoy.  Mistress Raven's thoughts can be found on Medium, where her column "Exploring Sensual Psyche" appears.  

I've highlighted a few items that stuck out to me, reminding me of some of the things that D expects.

Female-Led Relationship Rules

Every relationship has rules or requirements that are in place for one or both parties to feel secure or satisfied by the other person’s efforts.

Here are some rules I think are enjoyable for both parties because they end in a playful reward or a deepened connection.

Respect In All Forms

Respect is a dealbreaker. Address her correctly, never use words like “bro” or even, “girl”. The use of manners, etiquette, and any kind of consideration are especially noticed by women. Certain topics should be avoided as well. Learning her annoyances is just as beneficial as knowing her preferences.

Check-Ins

Text, verbal, and photo check-ins are quite normal and can be fun. It’s important to greet her and acknowledge each other every day. Although it’s something light-hearted, it can cause resentment when neglected.

Anticipate Her Wishes

This one is a little self-explanatory. You should strive to know your partner well enough to anticipate or be proactive about doing things that will show your effort, passion, and compassion.

Tasks

She could give you a small task or a big one. Either way this is a call to action and a call of love. Most of the time men miss this opportunity for intimacy and mistake it as an act of power dominance. What she really wants to do is reward you. First you have to complete her task, the amount of enthusiasm you show will ultimately determine what will happen next.

Public Behavior and Permissions

This is unique to every couple. However in most FLR it is obvious to the outside perspective that the female is treated with high favor by the man. She is often seen physically leading or being waited on. Permissions and levels of leadership from both partners in decision-making varies for everyone. There should also be an element of “Yes”, or “Yes and” — be willing to comply and adapt to her requests.

Leadership

Levels of leadership change with every person and can change over time. Naturally, your partner will expect you to follow and complete tasks, wishes, and desires. So qualities like leadership, strategic thinking, and problem-solving skills are very important. Being submissive doesn’t mean sitting back and being “thoughtless”.

Mistakes and Punishments

Failure to adhere to her rules or requests should not be taken lightly. As discussed in the beginning, these are things that are needed to let the connection thrive. There should be a clear understanding of a mistake and punishment versus playful disobedience within a sexual time and space. Showing disinterest or inability to set aside your own interests or needs equates to the failure of the female-led relationship. The act of putting her above yourself is the essence of submission.

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Mistakes and Punishments is an important section.  We have certain protocols in place that stress this.  Failure to follow the rules and to meet expectations should result in some form of discipline.  

Mistakes aren't always a clear cut violation of our rules/contract.  Sometimes there is just some subtle 
faux-pas' that require attention, maybe a compilation of things that might just require an attitude adjustment...

 

Love,

sissy terrie 😢😢😢 

Are you Sure you're In?

 Size Matters

A true story, written as accurately as possible given the time that has passed since it happened. 

Of course Diane knew the answer to Her question, particularly when She was in this position and staring right at it.

She just enjoyed hearing me humiliate myself and have me “Yes it is.”

I remember the first time She said this to me. Instinctively, my thrusts became harder as I tried to go in as deep as I could. I didn’t want to answer her question. As I fucked Her as best as I possibly could, I also realized that “it” wasn’t to get any bigger, nor was I going to penetrate Her any deeper.

And the look on Her face would never be mistaken as one of a woman in the throes of passion. All these thoughts humiliated and aroused me at the same time. The arousal increased, the size of my small penis didn’t, and I was afraid I was going to ejaculate prematurely….again.

Then She asked again.

“Are you sure it’s in all the way?”

I think I answered “yes” and ejaculated at the same time.

At least the humiliation didn’t cause me to shrink immediately, though my staying hard was of no benefit to Her. And once again, my premature ejaculation mercifully brought another failed attempt to please Her to an end.

She was nice about it. She always was. I sensed She felt sorry for me.

She just smiled and said “Well I guess it’s cleanup time isn’t it?”

As I dutifully pleasured Her orally to an orgasm, I just knew she had to be thinking, wishing and wanting something bigger and better.

And as you know, eventually She found what She needed. 

 

Love,

sissy terrie 💕  

Happy International Fetish Day

I almost missed this but today, January 15th is International Fetish Day.   The day has been celebrated on the third Friday in January since 2009.  The purpose of the day is to increase awareness and support of the fetish community. It is also designed to encourage members of the community to be more open about their sexuality.

The day has its origins in Great Britain as a protest to some laws that were being proposed or had passed in Parliament.   It started out as "National Fetish Day" in 2008 until it took on an international flavor the following year.   On the day, members of the community would wear something purple as a sign they were members and the slogan "Perverts wear purple" became quite popular.  

I hope to write more about the fetish community and our own experience with some of it years ago.  It led to meeting some very, very nice people and really helped us embrace a more fulfilling Female Led lifestyle. 

I suppose you could call the love of panties a fetish and maybe in my case it began in that way but over time was just part of my everyday attire and something associated with my femininity.  So I thought it would be apropos to feature a couple pairs of pretty purple panties, the first of which is an identical image of a pair I owned many years ago...

You might ask why I don't still have them.  When Diane decided that my panty-wearing regimen would be limited to pinks and other soft pastels, the purple panties were purged along with some other rather lovely but dark pieces of lingerie.  And yes, of course I miss them!

I'm thinking of asking Her for permission to buy something in more of a lilac shade of purple to wear next International Fetish Day in 2027.  Something instead of my everyday pink!

You could find these on Amazon for $12.99...

Anyone want to join me?  

Love,

sissy terrie 💜💜💜

Lingerie With Curves

It's Thursday, so don't expect any pictures of "Twiggy-like" girls in this plus-size lingerie feature!

Any curvy women wearing a pair of full cut pink nylon back seamed panties with a prominent gusset is certain to get my attention.

If she's provocatively posed like this she'd probably get my utmost devotion and adoration 👅 

These very ladylike looking strawberry pink shaded panties are very fitting on this bountiful bottom, one that is surely shaped to be noticed by Alpha and betas alike; for obviously different reasons/intentions!

 

Another backseamed and gusseted favorite.  Tightly fitting, shiny and sexy.  Try as I might, I can't quite get to get my girly bottom shaped exactly like this.

 

And finally, you can always count on a firmly fitting corset to give your own bottom a few extra curves!

 

Hope you noticed that these pictures are a little on the large side.  These fine ladies deserve to fill the screen along with the panties they may or may not be wearing.

Love,

 

sissy terrie 👄 

p.s. - If you're wondering who Twiggy was, she was a 60's iconic model who was a little too much on the thin side for this writer.   Even her pixie like haircut was a little too butch for me.  

 

Can I Blame Her???

Hope you enjoy this piece submitted by a loyal follower.

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I should have known she had a need for a real man.

For most men there is something utterly mortifying when their wife cuckolds them seemingly out of the blue. But in my case, that of a married submissive sissy, as difficult as it was when She told me She had taken on a lover, I shouldn’t have been surprised.

She knew what I did and she accepted it….at least she seemed to ….. she’d already told me having a cross dressing submissive husband would probably not have been her first choice…but she also told me she loved me….and knew this was who I really was.

I should have realized she needed a real man…. as does any normal woman …. if she was a lesbian or bi then she might have actually liked to sleep alongside a hubby in a pink nightie…but she wasn’t.

And she realized my dressing desires had intensified as did my submissiveness. She probably thought that having kids (two daughters a year apart) might change me. It didn’t. Though the girls didn’t know about my crossdressing I always wondered if they suspected anything.

Sex, the penetrative type, was never something I was great at. Probably not even “good” at. I was never able to give her an orgasm that way. I wasn’t very big, nor did I last very long. Not the greatest of combinations. Eventually, we stopped having sex that way. I would go down on her and satisfy her that way. In turn, she would tease while I masturbated and pleasured myself. She had a way of teasing me. I discovered the pleasure of verbal humiliation.

Other times, if she needed to get off, she'd simply sit on my face until she was satisfied - quite indifferent to my needs.  

There was also some teasing on weekends…. she’d lay out a cute bra and panty set for me to wear before going out shopping with the kids for a few hours, knowing I’d slip into it as soon as they were gone.…..giving me time to play “sissy.” It was so thoughtful of her.

And eventually when the kids had left home she started becoming more dominant with me. With the maids uniform she bought me came some domestic duties and a list of expectations with consequences for failing to meet them. I was enjoying the fantasy aspect and putting up with the less desirable aspects of this new arrangement.

“This is what you wanted isn’t it?” she would ask. It was. After I’d acknowledge it she would tease me even more.

“You’re such a pathetic pantywaist of a husband” she said one Saturday afternoon as I did housework in my maids uniform. Lifting up my dress she felt my crotch and giggled at the little erection her words had caused.

"Look at that.  How many wives have husbands who wear cute little pink panties like those.  They're your favorite aren't they?"  I didn't answer, instead I just breathed heavily as my cock grew stiffer.  

“I’ll bet you’d love all my friends to know I married a sissy wouldn’t you? I wonder if they’d feel bad for me or be jealous of me” she laughed. “Maybe they’d tell me I should find a real man” she continued. She knew this type of humiliation aroused me and continued rubbing my pantied penis.

“Look at you, aroused at the thought of your wife having a boyfriend. Is that also something you’d like?” she asked me. I nodded and pathetically said “yes.”

“Your such a good little sissy cuckold” she said. I couldn’t hold myself any longer and came in my panties as she continued to fondle me. I felt my knees go week and was barely able to stand as I came in my panties. 

“Good girl” she said as she always did after I would cum.

Then she kissed me.

“I want you to know I still love you and love having you as my sissy maid” she said.

Like a good submissive, I knelt down in front of her and thanked her profusely.

It was just at that moment that she broke the news to me.

“I also want to thank you for being who you are. I was pretty sure you would enjoy being a cuckold” she said. “You’d hinted at it a couple of times.”

I looked up at her and smiled and began to say something when she immediately put her fingers to my lips.

“I want you to know that I have a boyfriend, a lover. I needed a real man. Can you blame me?” she asked.

“No. I can’t” was all I could say.

Pre & Post Chastity

So first..get your minds out of the gutter.  I'm not about to show you a picture of my pre-chastity penis compared to what it looks like now.

Besides, neither one would be very impressive - depending on your perspective, frame of reference, etc.

However before I embarked ever-so-willingly (and unknowingly) upon a life of chastity controlled by my Mistress-Wife I used to be able to comfortably tuck my little thing between my legs for a rather feminine looking appearance...

I thought it looked pretty convincing, until I had to stand up and start prancing around.

But once chastity began and you're "life-locked" so to speak, your tucking days are pretty much over.  It's nearly impossible to squeeze the cage and it's contents between your girly thighs for it to remain hidden.

Instead, that little thing of yours isn't going anywhere or doing anything anytime soon.  

Love,

sissy terrie 💕 

Pretty Bows

 I'm sure I'm not the only sissy who loves the look of pretty bows....

 Sometimes their even prettier when put to a very different use...

 Love,

 sissy terrie 💗 

Sissy Cuckold Shortcumings

The scene below plays itself out in more bedrooms than you might think.  If you happen to be one of us who are "on the smaller side" when it comes to penis size, I'm sure you understand.

I hope you enjoy this short but powerful little piece from Ms. C and Her Cuckwife.

 

"It is hard" the cuckold replied.

"Oh...sorry" She said. "Get the dildo anyway."

Small penis humiliation comes in different ways, styles and situations. In some cases it's not meant to be humiliating, but it just comes out that way.

Other times, the person who says or does something has every intent of embarrassing and even emasculate you.

It's often a precursor of you becoming a cuckold. 

Love,

sissy terrie 👄 

Hot Wife & Cuckold Weddings

There's just so many fantasy themes that can be attached to a wedding involving a wedding between a future cuckoldress and her future cuckold husband.

If it involves a submissive sissy fiance the permutations of fantasies can be increased exponentially.

Just thinking about wearing her dress makes me so jealous! 

I also start wondering what their courtship was like?   Is the Bull part of the wedding party?  Is the fiance already in chastity?  Panties?  Who planned the honeymoon?  

My submissive sissy mind is spinning!

Love,

Sissy terrie 👄 

Frills for the Cuckold

A little piece of flash fiction and blast from the past for you to enjoy on this Frilly Friday...

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 "You"'re going to look absolutely adorable!" the Wife exclaimed as her cuckold took the panties out of the pink gift bag.  "Jim is going to be so happy."

Last weekend, her lover Jim had expressed disappointment with the panties the cuckold wore.  "They're not sissy enough" was his evaluation of the baby blue panties with a tiny bit of lace around the leg openings.  The sissy had tried to object but Jim simply threatened him with another spanking.  The discussion was over.  Sissy had been "out-manned" again.

"You probably recognize the panties.  I took them out of your drawer, bought some material at Hobby Lobby and asked Maria to sew them for me" the wife said.

"You didn't!" the cuckold gasped.  "You mean Maria knows?"

"Relax honey.  Of course she knows.  She's my best friend and I can trust her with anything."

 "How long has she known?" the sissy asked, almost sobbing now.

"I don't know.  A long time" was all the wife said, indifferent to the shame her cuckold felt.  "Now try them on and while you're wearing them, I want you to call Maria and thank you for the panties."

"Do I have to?"  Can it wait?" the sissy pleaded.

"Yes and no.  Yes you have to and no it can't wait.  You don't want another spanking from Jim do you?" the wife asked.

The sissy silently slipped into his panties and went to get the phone.

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Has your wife, significant other or anyone you've trusted shared your secret with a close friend?  How did it feel?  Did you feel betrayed?  Did it somehow arouse you?  Feel free to share your story.

Love,

sissy terrie 💔