Sissy Gift Giving

In many traditions around the world, the Christmas season extends to January 6th.  In Italy for example, an older women will give out gifts on this date to little children in their Christmas stockings.

The photo below is perfect for the establishment of a tradition in Female Led Relationships.  What's better than a Dominant Wife buying themselves a gift for their subs and sissies to give to them?  You know, something they can really use!

Even better when you can put it somewhere else than inside a silly Christmas stocking! 

From the Tumblr site Denial Permanente

But all this is just fantasy for me.  Diane would never think of giving me anything that would lead me to try and act like a real man with Her.   I do fantasize about at least trying to bring Her to an orgasm with a man-sized member strapped on over my chastity belt.

If you're excited, fearful, curious or whatever about chastity, I think you'll enjoy the Denial Permanente Tumblr site.  See the link above.

Love,

Sissy terrie 💓 

Wants vs. Needs

From Women of Authority

 

I enjoyed 23 orgasms in 2025.  That number may seem unremarkable to many but for me, that's nearly twice my average number since I've been locked in chastity.  When I expressed my gratitude to Diane more than a month ago She simply told me not to mistake Her generosity as a sign of weakness.  I've not had one since.  "You don't need that many" She added. 

I should also mention that 13 of those orgasms took place while I was locked in chastity; 'everything' taking place within the confines of my baby pink Holy Trainer chastity device.  

It seems like the increase in Her libido in 2025 is likely to manifest itself with a decrease in my own orgams in 2026.

My own libido hasn't changed and I would still enjoy having orgasms as often as possible, though none of them remotely resembling the orgasms that the average male enjoys.

As Diane loves to remind me: "Real men fuck their wives.  Sissies don't."

Love,

sissy terrie  💕

Another Year in Chastity

Tomorrow will mark the 11th anniversary of O/our (Diane and mine) commitment to a chastity lifestyle for me.  If we are being totally honest, I don't believe either one of us would have thought that we would remain faithful to it as long as we have.  I don't know exactly when the "turning point" was, we came to the conclusion that I will remain locked until it is no longer physically possible to do so.

Lots has happened in our lives since this journey began on 1/1/15.  Through it all, because of our mutual commitment this lifestyle, my chastity was almost an "afterthought", a part of our lives that didn't preoccupy us but was simply "always there."

All that being said, I want to share with you a post from Diane's now "silent" blog - To Love, Honor & Obey" - that I wrote on January 1, 2020.

Wednesday, January 1, 2020

 
2020 - Five Years in Chastity

 

 On January 1, 2015 we embarked on a commitment to a lifestyle of chastity for me.  It was a significant milestone in our Wife Led Marriage one that neither one of us took lightly.

We'd "toyed" with it in the past until Diane found it too high maintenance and tired of my whining.  My complaints of discomfort would lead to my being let out only to find me begging to be locked again.  It was all too much for Her.

"If we're going to do this again, I want you locked at least 50% of the time" She said towards the end of 2019.  I agreed, and so it began.   It was a special holiday for us. 

 

 

Within a couple of weeks I found myself locked more than that and decided to try sleeping in my CB-6000.  It was painful but I put up with it.  Soon, I was locked more than 75%, then 90%....and so it went.

Daily spreadsheets sent to Diane and eventually Her lover Karl documented my progress. 

It's been five years now and I'm proud to say that I am now locked basically full time.  I'm now over 99% since we started. 

We've gone through several cages and settled on my pink Holy Trainer and another stainless steel cage.  I've been discovered a few times while going through scanners at airports and raised a few eyebrows.  I get anxious about it but its worth it.  Most of the time I slip through without any extra attention; an indication that TSA has obviously seen this all before. 

At this point there's no turning back.  Long term chastity has caused penile atrophy and full erections are a thing of the distant past.  I orgasm once per month on average and often it's when I'm locked.  When I'm "out" my little "softies" make the orgasms feel very, very feminine.

Joyfully, I wouldn't have it any other way.

Happy New Year and may your 2020 be filled with many joys and blessings.

Love,

sissy terri

A special thank you to all of our loyal followers over the years, those who are just joining us and people who just stop by.  You've been special to both of us, particularly during more difficult times.  Diane will probably join me here on this blog over the next few months (trying to get her added as an 'author' is more difficult than I thought - I just can't seem to get it to work) and we wish you nothing but the best in 2026.

 

Love,

 

Ms Diane & sissy terrie  👄👄👄

Chastity, Castration, Then What?

When the clock strikes midnight on next Wednesday evening and we kick off 2026, I'll be celebrating the start of my 12th year of being in chastity.  

I'll write more about that later but for now I'd like to share this cute and tantalizing (to some)AI generated "sissy magazine" cover. 

 Special thanks to:  Sissy Dolly 💗

Though I haven't totally "lost my manhood", I've certainly had to come to grips with the changes (emotional and physical) chastity has brought about in my life.  I think I've dealt with it pretty well.  Moreover, I'm very grateful to Diane for gifting me with such a lifestyle.  

Love,

sissy terrie 💗 

Sissy Bubble Baths

 So....

 I hope I'm not the only one who loves bubble baths.

A busy weekend and Monday here.

I promise tomorrow's post will be longer.

Love,

sissy terrie 💗 

Chastity & Orgasm Denial

 A little chastity and orgasm denial humor...

 

Mistress' control over my orgasms coupled with my long term chastity have for the most part, made orgasms a "rare occurrence" compared to most men or real men.  But I'd be the first to admit that I am not like most men or a "real man."

As Mistress (and some close friends) like to remind me: "Real men fuck their wives."

I know I've been away from this blog for awhile, but would love to hear from others who share things like chastity, orgasm denial and the like.  I can't be the only one....

Love,

sissy terrie 💋

Chastity Update

Let me start with a quick "Editor's Note."  I had to delete a spam-like, porno ad from one of the comments here.  So starting tomorrow, I'll be moderating the comments on the blog.  I'll do my best to be timely in doing so.  Thanks so much for your understanding!

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Chastity was, and will continue to be a frequent topic on this blog going forward.  As some of you know, I've basically been locked in a chastity device just about 99% of the time since January 1, 2015.  Soon I'll be moving into my 12th year.  

Here's a link to a previous post to refresh your memory: Panties & Chastity - Constant Reminders.

I'd also like to provide you with a more accurate update on my "progress."    As I write this, I've been locked up 98.80% of the time since we committed to a serious chastity lifestyle.  

Lingerie, Cross Dressing & FemDom

A commitment like this doesn't come without challenges and some serious changes.  These changes physically, emotionally and lifestyle related.   When we started, I never really thought it would last this long but I committed to Diane that I would do my best.  I took it one day at a time.   That was 3,974 days ago.  I can honestly say that it has made me a better submsisive.   I'm grateful.

I'm also thankful that Diane's lover never insisted that She be locked in chastity...not that She would have agreed!

 I couldn't survive without the oral servitude that's expected of me.  I'd be lost with out it.

love,

sissy terrie  

Chastity Memories

There was a time in my nearly decade long time in chastity where I would have to switch between a steel cage (mostly a jailbird) and a plastic one (CB XOOO series with a plastic numbered seal) so that I wouldn't set off metal detectors at airports, sports and concert venues or any other location that had metal detectors.

With the Holy Trainer devices that don't set off metal detectors all that has become a non-issue.  Plus, I've gotten over the possibility of scanners picking up my device.   It's no big deal.  It happens far more often than you think.

As I passed through security last week at the local airport, I thought about one of my old metal cage.

It might not look that comfortable, but compared to the plastic CB models, it certainly was!

January 1, 2025 will mark 10 years of chastity for me....but who's counting?

Love,

sissy terrie 💓

 

 

Joint Decision Making

In a Female Led Marriage, not ALL decisions are made solely by the wife....

 

From the Tumblr blog Bi Top For Cuckold Couples

“You’re much, much smaller than him.  Even when you’re at your most erect state and he’s still soft, there’s still no comparison” Michelle told the cuckold.  “And besides, you still have that nasty masturbation habit.”

The cuckold blushed with shame.  It was useless to argue.  She’d caught him masturbating numerous times and even though it had been awhile since the last time she caught him, he knew that she knew he still did it.  All he could say was “I’m sorry.”

“Well, that’s why we’ve decided to put you in chastity.”

The short piece above brings back vivid memories of my own initiation into chastity.  After we'd tried it several times before my becoming a cuckold, D had felt it (and me) were too high maintenance for it to work.  But after She began Her relationship with Karl, the decision to put me into chastity was a joint one.  It came with the caveat that suck it up and stop my complaining about it. 

I approached it more maturely and with less whining.  At the same time, we changed cages and spent more money so that I could be more comfortable.  That was more than 9 years ago.  

Love,

sissy terrie

 

Painful Memories

My first chastity device was actually a CB-3000,  a molded plastic cage that was quite popular when male chastity began it's rise in popularity decades ago.  It was clear and colorless and quite frankly, with all its little spaces capable of inflicting serious pain because of all the pinching it caused, very, very uncomfortable.  

I then graduated to the CB-6000 which, pleasing to many sissies who liked being locked, came in pink.  No less comfortable, it was the cage Diane put me in when it became time to "put up or shut up" about wanting to be in chastity.  I endured the pain and pinching but only a short while.  Diane then ordered me my first steel cage called the Jailbird.  Though still very restrictive, it was far more comfortable than the CB series.  I would be put back into the CB-3000 when there was need for me to go through metal detectors.  Instead of the little brass locks, Diane would use numbered plastic locks to keep me secure. 

Here's a photo that brings back memories of the CB-3000 and CB-6000.  I'd recognize those keys anywhere...

...as I would Diane's leather crop, which used to be Her favorite disciplinary toy in those days.  

Love,

sissy terrie

Panties & Chastity - Constant Reminders

I've had an extremely busy week which has prevented me from posting.  There's been some travel, meetings, delays, etc.  Nothing out of the ordinary for most people with real jobs but being being semi-retired and a "mostly" full time sissy hubwife to my Mistress, it's been very different for me.

Some things however are "constants" in our Wife Led Marriage, which I'm sure is true of other serious Female Led Relationships.  Along with always being obedient to Diane, here are couple of things that stand out for us:

• Panties - I wear them 24/7/365.  There are no exceptions without Her permission and it's been years since I've worn "boy" underwear.  
• Chastity - I remain in chastity even when I travel and am away from Diane.  It was hard to deal with when I first started "wearing", but over the years, it's become rather routine.

The latter was the topic of a discussion I had with my sissy sister Nancy the other day when she asked about an "emergency" escape mechanism for those times I was separated from Diane.  I explained to her that Diane has emergency situations covered.  I always emergency access to a spare key with me at all times.  The key is in a sealed envelope that has Her signature and rubber stamp across the seal.    There are several of these envelopes; one at home, one in each of our vehicles and one for me to take with me when I have to travel.  Her lover also has a key along with Her best friend Linda.  The latter two are more symbolic than anything else.

The issue of multiple keys was a bit challenging when we first bought the Holy Trainer.  Each device comes with only two keys that align with the device's locking mechanism.  Diane wasn't able to order additional matching keys.  Fortunately, She found a locksmith who could replicate the keys and the problem was solved.  She ordered 10 new ones.

When I asked Her why so many She just shrugged Her shoulders and said "you never know..."  Other than the keys I listed above, the extra ones are locked in our home safe and "secured" in the same way the others are.

She's got Her bases covered pretty well, and Her sissy secured.  

Love,

sissy cuckold terrie 👄

Chastity Check

You know you're a cuckold when your Wife's Bull checks to see if you're in your chastity device as soon as he walks through the door. 

 

Love,

 

sissy terrie

Lovingly Locked

 I used to be able to do this...

Not so much anymore...

At least not without Her permission.

Love

sissy terrie 💓

Male Chastity - Comfort & Compliance

It's unlikely you're going to find the chastity belt that works best for you with your first purchase. Most of us spend more money than we should in search of that perfect fit. We start out with a cheap "knock off" because we don't want to waste money if we're not going to be serious about a chastity lifestyle.  But the cheap devices are so uncomfortable we're likely to get discouraged before giving chastity a chance.  

I've been in all of these devices and a couple others I gave away.   In many ways it was a trial and error process.   

Of those shown the most comfortable is the Holy Trainer (far left) and what I'm currently wearing followed by The Jailbird (middle).  The least comfortable was the CB-6000 (second from the right).

Realistically, when it comes to chastity as a lifestyle, some level of comfort matters if you're going to reap its benefits or reach the goals your keyholder might have in mind.  

Here's something from the long time blog Astonished by Her:

 Oh Lock Me, Boss Woman, Mother Woman

 

One law of Matriarchy

if i'm kept from masturbation, 

i'm more compliant.

i become more affiliated with Gynarchy.

Her needs, Her orders find home in my body.

Her stature grows, 

Her whims are honored.

The picture and prose resonate with me.   I'm also kept from masturbation unless it's in Her presence and I'm very compliant.  Nearly six and a half years will do that to you.

I'm happy honoring Her and Her whims.

Love,

sissy terrie 💗

Panty Poll Peek

Reminder:  Voting closes at 7 AM tomorrow morning on last week's "Panty Poll."  If you haven't voted yet there's still time.

Here's a hint of what's in store for this week's poll which will start tomorrow morning....

Here's something cute I thought I'd share from back in the day when most chastity devices weren't metal detector friendly!

Love,

sissy terrie 👄

Limitations

We hosted Mistress' lover Karl last night.  Mistress had a long week and was deserving of whatever She wanted last night.  I wasn't upset that, having not seen Karl in more than a week, She wanted to spend some time alone with him.

The sounds emanating from the master bedroom aroused me.  So much so that I really wanted to touch myself.

 

I opted not to.  Chastity would have prevented any real pleasure, so I just thought about the two of them together.

Love,

sissy terrie 👄

The Monday Pantie

How many of you are old enough to remember "Day of the Week Panties?"

Collectively, they made a very soft and sensual statement about one's femininity.  I love the photo.  I've always blushed when hanging my panties outdoors to dry and think my face would turn an even deeper shade of red if the days of the week were daintily embroidered on each one of them!

Oh, and let's not forget today is "Blue Monday." 

 

Just thinking, what if...

 ...Mistress allowed me to have a "Cage of the Week?"  That could be problematic.

Love,

sissy terrie 💝

Sharing the Cuckold's Chastity

A short and true story.  It takes a very high level of trust to share certain things... 

                                                             Memories

“Can you guess what hotel we’re in?”

The text from Her Lover posed the question.  It was around 4 in the afternoon, the sun shining on the city skyline.  They were likely at the Crowne Plaze just a few blocks from their offices.

 

It was also the sight where the three of us had met a few months earlier.  Sitting in the hotel’s lobby bar, I had to humble myself and ask Him to make love to my Wife.  She’d obviously prepped Him ahead of time and not surprisingly He asked me why.  I told him about my inability to please Her during “regular” sex and once again, He wanted more information.  One question led to another and before long I went through all of my sexual inadequacies.

After extracting more than His pound of flesh, He glanced Her way and She reached into Her purse and took out “the key” and handed it to Him.

“He has a key now” She said.  “Don’t worry.  It’s not THE key.  I still have mine.  But now, you have another keyholder.”

In an instant, my chastity cage felt much tighter. 

Now months later, He was with my wife in a room at the same hotel, doing exactly what I had asked Him to do.

Love,

sissy terrie 💘

Messy Memories

I've been in chastity for more than six years.  At least for us, it's worked out very well.  It certainly isn't for everyone and it takes effort on both parties, the key holder and the party who's locked.

I still have very fond memories of the days when I wasn't in some type of cage.  Slipping into a pretty pair of panties would often lead to a slow and sensual arousal.  Often I couldn't control myself, have an "accident" and have to change into another pair of panties.

 Chastity changed all that.  Over the past six years those "accidents" have been a very rare occurrence.

Love,

 

sissy terrie 👄

Celebrating Chastity

Today is International Male Chastity Day and as I reflected on my own chastity and what I would share with my readers today I realized that this I'm on my seventh year in chastity.  That's right, I've celebrated seven of these days while locked!  My chastity anniversary is January 1, 2015 and admittedly, the first couple of years I had no idea January 14th was such a special day for those of us who are enjoying the confines of various cages.  

I've been through several devices before settling on the Holy Trainer (in "baby pink") no less...

A Gurly Space for the Feminine Male -Terrie

 

And the folks over at Holy Trainer have been great to deal with.  They're celebrating today with a special invitation form:

Commit yourself to this initiative and invite your partner to participate in the day of male chastity. Send your spouse an invitation card and information on the purpose of the day and indicate, by sending this invitation, that you wish to participate in your own way to the "International Male Chastity Day".

Go ahead and invite someone here.

My gurlfriend Angelina is also locked today.  Hidden behind her pretty pink panties is what looks like a CB-6000 with a plastic numbered lock.  

Fallen Naughty Girl - Angelina

 

I used to love those numbered locks.  I'm a little disappointed that they don't fit on my Holy Trainer :(

There are a wide range of benefits to being in chastity and it evokes different emotions in each of us.  I'd love to devote some time here in the future on that very subject with some input from readers.  But for now let me leave you with one thing that Angelina and me love about being locked.

It forces us to sit to pee.  Just like real girls.

Love,

sissy terrie 💖