Female Led Relationships - Rules are Rules

Happy Sunday!

I can't count the number of times when, in the midst of some type of minor disagreement or my own asking D about something She's simply looked at me and said "Rules are Rules."  Rarely did those three words not put an immediate end to our discussion.

Successful Female Led Relationships probably have several hard and fast rules.  Ours certainly does. Though Diane has allowed me some rare exceptions, the rules have benefited us in many, many ways.

Here's a short and interesting article by Mistress Raven that you might enjoy.  Mistress Raven's thoughts can be found on Medium, where her column "Exploring Sensual Psyche" appears.  

I've highlighted a few items that stuck out to me, reminding me of some of the things that D expects.

Female-Led Relationship Rules

Every relationship has rules or requirements that are in place for one or both parties to feel secure or satisfied by the other person’s efforts.

Here are some rules I think are enjoyable for both parties because they end in a playful reward or a deepened connection.

Respect In All Forms

Respect is a dealbreaker. Address her correctly, never use words like “bro” or even, “girl”. The use of manners, etiquette, and any kind of consideration are especially noticed by women. Certain topics should be avoided as well. Learning her annoyances is just as beneficial as knowing her preferences.

Check-Ins

Text, verbal, and photo check-ins are quite normal and can be fun. It’s important to greet her and acknowledge each other every day. Although it’s something light-hearted, it can cause resentment when neglected.

Anticipate Her Wishes

This one is a little self-explanatory. You should strive to know your partner well enough to anticipate or be proactive about doing things that will show your effort, passion, and compassion.

Tasks

She could give you a small task or a big one. Either way this is a call to action and a call of love. Most of the time men miss this opportunity for intimacy and mistake it as an act of power dominance. What she really wants to do is reward you. First you have to complete her task, the amount of enthusiasm you show will ultimately determine what will happen next.

Public Behavior and Permissions

This is unique to every couple. However in most FLR it is obvious to the outside perspective that the female is treated with high favor by the man. She is often seen physically leading or being waited on. Permissions and levels of leadership from both partners in decision-making varies for everyone. There should also be an element of “Yes”, or “Yes and” — be willing to comply and adapt to her requests.

Leadership

Levels of leadership change with every person and can change over time. Naturally, your partner will expect you to follow and complete tasks, wishes, and desires. So qualities like leadership, strategic thinking, and problem-solving skills are very important. Being submissive doesn’t mean sitting back and being “thoughtless”.

Mistakes and Punishments

Failure to adhere to her rules or requests should not be taken lightly. As discussed in the beginning, these are things that are needed to let the connection thrive. There should be a clear understanding of a mistake and punishment versus playful disobedience within a sexual time and space. Showing disinterest or inability to set aside your own interests or needs equates to the failure of the female-led relationship. The act of putting her above yourself is the essence of submission.

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Mistakes and Punishments is an important section.  We have certain protocols in place that stress this.  Failure to follow the rules and to meet expectations should result in some form of discipline.  

Mistakes aren't always a clear cut violation of our rules/contract.  Sometimes there is just some subtle 
faux-pas' that require attention, maybe a compilation of things that might just require an attitude adjustment...

 

Love,

sissy terrie 😢😢😢 

Frills for the Cuckold

A little piece of flash fiction and blast from the past for you to enjoy on this Frilly Friday...

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 "You"'re going to look absolutely adorable!" the Wife exclaimed as her cuckold took the panties out of the pink gift bag.  "Jim is going to be so happy."

Last weekend, her lover Jim had expressed disappointment with the panties the cuckold wore.  "They're not sissy enough" was his evaluation of the baby blue panties with a tiny bit of lace around the leg openings.  The sissy had tried to object but Jim simply threatened him with another spanking.  The discussion was over.  Sissy had been "out-manned" again.

"You probably recognize the panties.  I took them out of your drawer, bought some material at Hobby Lobby and asked Maria to sew them for me" the wife said.

"You didn't!" the cuckold gasped.  "You mean Maria knows?"

"Relax honey.  Of course she knows.  She's my best friend and I can trust her with anything."

 "How long has she known?" the sissy asked, almost sobbing now.

"I don't know.  A long time" was all the wife said, indifferent to the shame her cuckold felt.  "Now try them on and while you're wearing them, I want you to call Maria and thank you for the panties."

"Do I have to?"  Can it wait?" the sissy pleaded.

"Yes and no.  Yes you have to and no it can't wait.  You don't want another spanking from Jim do you?" the wife asked.

The sissy silently slipped into his panties and went to get the phone.

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Has your wife, significant other or anyone you've trusted shared your secret with a close friend?  How did it feel?  Did you feel betrayed?  Did it somehow arouse you?  Feel free to share your story.

Love,

sissy terrie 💔

 

Waiting for Discipline

A true Female Led Marriage or Relationship never takes a "vacation."   Despite being on vacation with some vanilla friends, Diane still manages to effectively and discreetly wield Her power and control over me.  For instance, I spent 30 minutes in the corner of our hotel room yesterday for both a "minor" behavioral faux-pas and Her "enjoyment."

At the same time, some vacations don't come with all the FLR's bells and whistles that include strap-on sex and serious spankings.  Some of those things just have to wait.

The end to yesterday's corner time came with a "That's enough for now" from Diane and a "the rest will have to wait until we get home."

Nobody likes to wait for anything.  I'm as impatient as the next person.  But waiting also has me thinking some naughty thoughts.  Like this one...

We'll see what happens.

Love,

sissy terrie 💓

My First Spanking

We are on vacation for a couple of weeks and some time ago I asked D if She would write something for my blog.  I didn't give here any suggestions, instead just granted Her editorial freedom.  Well, I didn't really "grant" Her anything.  She wrote what She wanted to write....

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Sissy's First Spanking

It was a seminal moment, one where I knew immediately I was on to something.

We'd been dating only a few months but things had gotten a little serious.  He began opening up about a few things.

"A spanking?  Really?" I asked him.  He blushed and nodded yes.

Why not I thought to myself.

 

Just a few swats into it, I started having fun.  I don't think he expected me to slap his ass as hard as I did.  Once I had reddened his cheeks a little bit I paused for a moment and walked towards the pantry of my apartment.  He stirred and began to roll over.

"Get back there" I said.  "I'm not done."  I was far from done but rather looking for something to use to continue the spanking.  A second year med student's apartment isn't exactly furnished with many extras.  I only had one sex toy and it wasn't made for spanking :)  The sole wooden spoon in my kitchen utensil drawer would have to do.

"You've been a real naughty boy" I told him just as the spoon stung his bottom.  He yelped.  Another swat led to an even louder and wimpier whale.  And so it went.

I loved the sounds of the spoon punishing his cute butt, how quickly the flesh was changing colors and the pathetic please spewing off his lips.   It was fun.  It was erotic.  It got me excited.

I could have spanked him all night and had a blast.  The only reason I didn't is because my pussy was wet and needed a worshiping.

D

Spanking Panties

"Go get your spanking panties" She said, the tone in Her voice reflecting how irate She was with me.  "The flowered ones."

The list of "things to do today" She'd left me hadn't been completed.  I didn't have a good excuse, not that any excuse would have mattered.

I have two different pairs of spanking panties.   One panty is a simple white panty girdle.  Its firming tightness seems to intensify the sting of the hairbrush, crop or hand when She spanks me.  

The other panty, the flowered one, is a full cut brief with a pink rose pattern on it.  That panty is reserved for spankings administered by Her lover.  Those panties are meant to intensify the humiliation of the spanking.

They always seem to do that.

Love,

sissy terrie 👄

Showers & Spankings

I knew yesterday that I was going to be in for a disciplinary session today with Mistress.  She wasn't happy about how I reacted to something earlier in the week and made Her displeasure known.  Nonetheless She was still in a pretty good mood this morning and decided we would go to the gym together.

When we got home She decided we'd shower together since today, February 5th is National Shower with a Friend Day.   We shower together once and awhile, typically when She's in the mood for some oral attention or to shower me Herself in Her own intimate ways.  My other experiences when it comes to Her showering for "fun" involved some rather steamy and soapy sessions with Her lover.

This morning's shower with D was nothing like the one above.  I was on my knees and locked up safely in my cage.  When She decided I'd had enough and She was clean enough it was time to dry off and get ready for my spanking.

With the panties She'd worn to the gym stuffed carefully into my mouth.  I took 30 strokes with the hairbrush - 15 on each cheek.

 It hurt.  I learned my lesson.  And, we saved water.

Love,

sissy terrie

Sunday Spankings - Be Careful What You Wish For

Last Sunday I had a post about Sunday Spankings where I mused about how some D/s relationships or Female Led Marriages set aside Sunday for disciplinary sessions.   my Wife happened to read the post (She doesn't read them all) but didn't say anything to me about it until about a half hour ago.

"Do you miss your Sunday spankings?" She asked me as I served Her a fresh cup of coffee.

"Well sometimes I do, but not really" I answered.

"I miss them" She said in Her inimitable authoritative way with a slight emphasis on the "I", the emphasis indicating that Her opinion is all that really matters on the issue.  She quickly added "Get your punishment panties out.  You'll be wearing them later.

That's all it took to my little "thing" to stir slightly in my tiny cage.  Visions of pulling my panties down to expose my girly ass for Diane to administer a spanking.  Had I done anything wrong this week?  Did it matter?  

"Yes Ma'am" I answered and asked if there was any specific spanking implement She would like me take out.

"No.  I'll decide later.  But you can take my strap-on out."

"Yes Ma'am" I answered, feeling like a very submissive sissy wife.

Love,

sissy terrie 👄

The Sunday Spanking

Happy Sunday!

In many D/s relationships, both Female or Male dominated, a portion of each Sunday is set aside for some type of formal review of the submissive's behavior during the past week.  It's a ritual that, depending on the couple, can be as formal or informal as they want.  We've personally known two such couples (both where the male was dominant) who did this every week.  The review and discussion was usually followed by a discipline session of some kind, most usually a spanking.  

I've learned that ritual can be very important in an alternative lifestyle relationship like D/s.  Setting up specific times for things, tasks, expectations, etc. are powerful commitments to one another.  These rituals along with other powerful symbols strengthen the bond between the Dominant and their submissive.  

At one stage in our relationship we also set Sunday aside for a review of my behavior and appropriate discipline.  But soon after I was ordered to submit a Daily Chastity Report which always includes a short narrative about the previous day and a self-assessment of my behavior, Diane decided that the Sunday meeting was no longer needed.  As far as the discipline goes, She metes it out when She deems it appropriate.

Spankings in some relationships can be very playful.   In others, especially ours, they are serious business.  That seriousness adds to the eroticism of it in my opinion.

Mrs. Sharpe appears to take the spankings she administers very seriously.  They even come with a crying towel!

Diane doesn't provide me with a crying towel during my spankings, even though I'm sometimes spanked to tears.

Love,

sissy terrie 💗