Female Led Relationships - Rules are Rules

Happy Sunday!

I can't count the number of times when, in the midst of some type of minor disagreement or my own asking D about something She's simply looked at me and said "Rules are Rules."  Rarely did those three words not put an immediate end to our discussion.

Successful Female Led Relationships probably have several hard and fast rules.  Ours certainly does. Though Diane has allowed me some rare exceptions, the rules have benefited us in many, many ways.

Here's a short and interesting article by Mistress Raven that you might enjoy.  Mistress Raven's thoughts can be found on Medium, where her column "Exploring Sensual Psyche" appears.  

I've highlighted a few items that stuck out to me, reminding me of some of the things that D expects.

Female-Led Relationship Rules

Every relationship has rules or requirements that are in place for one or both parties to feel secure or satisfied by the other person’s efforts.

Here are some rules I think are enjoyable for both parties because they end in a playful reward or a deepened connection.

Respect In All Forms

Respect is a dealbreaker. Address her correctly, never use words like “bro” or even, “girl”. The use of manners, etiquette, and any kind of consideration are especially noticed by women. Certain topics should be avoided as well. Learning her annoyances is just as beneficial as knowing her preferences.

Check-Ins

Text, verbal, and photo check-ins are quite normal and can be fun. It’s important to greet her and acknowledge each other every day. Although it’s something light-hearted, it can cause resentment when neglected.

Anticipate Her Wishes

This one is a little self-explanatory. You should strive to know your partner well enough to anticipate or be proactive about doing things that will show your effort, passion, and compassion.

Tasks

She could give you a small task or a big one. Either way this is a call to action and a call of love. Most of the time men miss this opportunity for intimacy and mistake it as an act of power dominance. What she really wants to do is reward you. First you have to complete her task, the amount of enthusiasm you show will ultimately determine what will happen next.

Public Behavior and Permissions

This is unique to every couple. However in most FLR it is obvious to the outside perspective that the female is treated with high favor by the man. She is often seen physically leading or being waited on. Permissions and levels of leadership from both partners in decision-making varies for everyone. There should also be an element of “Yes”, or “Yes and” — be willing to comply and adapt to her requests.

Leadership

Levels of leadership change with every person and can change over time. Naturally, your partner will expect you to follow and complete tasks, wishes, and desires. So qualities like leadership, strategic thinking, and problem-solving skills are very important. Being submissive doesn’t mean sitting back and being “thoughtless”.

Mistakes and Punishments

Failure to adhere to her rules or requests should not be taken lightly. As discussed in the beginning, these are things that are needed to let the connection thrive. There should be a clear understanding of a mistake and punishment versus playful disobedience within a sexual time and space. Showing disinterest or inability to set aside your own interests or needs equates to the failure of the female-led relationship. The act of putting her above yourself is the essence of submission.

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Mistakes and Punishments is an important section.  We have certain protocols in place that stress this.  Failure to follow the rules and to meet expectations should result in some form of discipline.  

Mistakes aren't always a clear cut violation of our rules/contract.  Sometimes there is just some subtle 
faux-pas' that require attention, maybe a compilation of things that might just require an attitude adjustment...

 

Love,

sissy terrie 😢😢😢 

Are you Sure you're In?

 Size Matters

A true story, written as accurately as possible given the time that has passed since it happened. 

Of course Diane knew the answer to Her question, particularly when She was in this position and staring right at it.

She just enjoyed hearing me humiliate myself and have me “Yes it is.”

I remember the first time She said this to me. Instinctively, my thrusts became harder as I tried to go in as deep as I could. I didn’t want to answer her question. As I fucked Her as best as I possibly could, I also realized that “it” wasn’t to get any bigger, nor was I going to penetrate Her any deeper.

And the look on Her face would never be mistaken as one of a woman in the throes of passion. All these thoughts humiliated and aroused me at the same time. The arousal increased, the size of my small penis didn’t, and I was afraid I was going to ejaculate prematurely….again.

Then She asked again.

“Are you sure it’s in all the way?”

I think I answered “yes” and ejaculated at the same time.

At least the humiliation didn’t cause me to shrink immediately, though my staying hard was of no benefit to Her. And once again, my premature ejaculation mercifully brought another failed attempt to please Her to an end.

She was nice about it. She always was. I sensed She felt sorry for me.

She just smiled and said “Well I guess it’s cleanup time isn’t it?”

As I dutifully pleasured Her orally to an orgasm, I just knew she had to be thinking, wishing and wanting something bigger and better.

And as you know, eventually She found what She needed. 

 

Love,

sissy terrie 💕  

Happy International Fetish Day

I almost missed this but today, January 15th is International Fetish Day.   The day has been celebrated on the third Friday in January since 2009.  The purpose of the day is to increase awareness and support of the fetish community. It is also designed to encourage members of the community to be more open about their sexuality.

The day has its origins in Great Britain as a protest to some laws that were being proposed or had passed in Parliament.   It started out as "National Fetish Day" in 2008 until it took on an international flavor the following year.   On the day, members of the community would wear something purple as a sign they were members and the slogan "Perverts wear purple" became quite popular.  

I hope to write more about the fetish community and our own experience with some of it years ago.  It led to meeting some very, very nice people and really helped us embrace a more fulfilling Female Led lifestyle. 

I suppose you could call the love of panties a fetish and maybe in my case it began in that way but over time was just part of my everyday attire and something associated with my femininity.  So I thought it would be apropos to feature a couple pairs of pretty purple panties, the first of which is an identical image of a pair I owned many years ago...

You might ask why I don't still have them.  When Diane decided that my panty-wearing regimen would be limited to pinks and other soft pastels, the purple panties were purged along with some other rather lovely but dark pieces of lingerie.  And yes, of course I miss them!

I'm thinking of asking Her for permission to buy something in more of a lilac shade of purple to wear next International Fetish Day in 2027.  Something instead of my everyday pink!

You could find these on Amazon for $12.99...

Anyone want to join me?  

Love,

sissy terrie 💜💜💜

Lingerie With Curves

It's Thursday, so don't expect any pictures of "Twiggy-like" girls in this plus-size lingerie feature!

Any curvy women wearing a pair of full cut pink nylon back seamed panties with a prominent gusset is certain to get my attention.

If she's provocatively posed like this she'd probably get my utmost devotion and adoration 👅 

These very ladylike looking strawberry pink shaded panties are very fitting on this bountiful bottom, one that is surely shaped to be noticed by Alpha and betas alike; for obviously different reasons/intentions!

 

Another backseamed and gusseted favorite.  Tightly fitting, shiny and sexy.  Try as I might, I can't quite get to get my girly bottom shaped exactly like this.

 

And finally, you can always count on a firmly fitting corset to give your own bottom a few extra curves!

 

Hope you noticed that these pictures are a little on the large side.  These fine ladies deserve to fill the screen along with the panties they may or may not be wearing.

Love,

 

sissy terrie 👄 

p.s. - If you're wondering who Twiggy was, she was a 60's iconic model who was a little too much on the thin side for this writer.   Even her pixie like haircut was a little too butch for me.  

 

Can I Blame Her???

Hope you enjoy this piece submitted by a loyal follower.

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I should have known she had a need for a real man.

For most men there is something utterly mortifying when their wife cuckolds them seemingly out of the blue. But in my case, that of a married submissive sissy, as difficult as it was when She told me She had taken on a lover, I shouldn’t have been surprised.

She knew what I did and she accepted it….at least she seemed to ….. she’d already told me having a cross dressing submissive husband would probably not have been her first choice…but she also told me she loved me….and knew this was who I really was.

I should have realized she needed a real man…. as does any normal woman …. if she was a lesbian or bi then she might have actually liked to sleep alongside a hubby in a pink nightie…but she wasn’t.

And she realized my dressing desires had intensified as did my submissiveness. She probably thought that having kids (two daughters a year apart) might change me. It didn’t. Though the girls didn’t know about my crossdressing I always wondered if they suspected anything.

Sex, the penetrative type, was never something I was great at. Probably not even “good” at. I was never able to give her an orgasm that way. I wasn’t very big, nor did I last very long. Not the greatest of combinations. Eventually, we stopped having sex that way. I would go down on her and satisfy her that way. In turn, she would tease while I masturbated and pleasured myself. She had a way of teasing me. I discovered the pleasure of verbal humiliation.

Other times, if she needed to get off, she'd simply sit on my face until she was satisfied - quite indifferent to my needs.  

There was also some teasing on weekends…. she’d lay out a cute bra and panty set for me to wear before going out shopping with the kids for a few hours, knowing I’d slip into it as soon as they were gone.…..giving me time to play “sissy.” It was so thoughtful of her.

And eventually when the kids had left home she started becoming more dominant with me. With the maids uniform she bought me came some domestic duties and a list of expectations with consequences for failing to meet them. I was enjoying the fantasy aspect and putting up with the less desirable aspects of this new arrangement.

“This is what you wanted isn’t it?” she would ask. It was. After I’d acknowledge it she would tease me even more.

“You’re such a pathetic pantywaist of a husband” she said one Saturday afternoon as I did housework in my maids uniform. Lifting up my dress she felt my crotch and giggled at the little erection her words had caused.

"Look at that.  How many wives have husbands who wear cute little pink panties like those.  They're your favorite aren't they?"  I didn't answer, instead I just breathed heavily as my cock grew stiffer.  

“I’ll bet you’d love all my friends to know I married a sissy wouldn’t you? I wonder if they’d feel bad for me or be jealous of me” she laughed. “Maybe they’d tell me I should find a real man” she continued. She knew this type of humiliation aroused me and continued rubbing my pantied penis.

“Look at you, aroused at the thought of your wife having a boyfriend. Is that also something you’d like?” she asked me. I nodded and pathetically said “yes.”

“Your such a good little sissy cuckold” she said. I couldn’t hold myself any longer and came in my panties as she continued to fondle me. I felt my knees go week and was barely able to stand as I came in my panties. 

“Good girl” she said as she always did after I would cum.

Then she kissed me.

“I want you to know I still love you and love having you as my sissy maid” she said.

Like a good submissive, I knelt down in front of her and thanked her profusely.

It was just at that moment that she broke the news to me.

“I also want to thank you for being who you are. I was pretty sure you would enjoy being a cuckold” she said. “You’d hinted at it a couple of times.”

I looked up at her and smiled and began to say something when she immediately put her fingers to my lips.

“I want you to know that I have a boyfriend, a lover. I needed a real man. Can you blame me?” she asked.

“No. I can’t” was all I could say.

Pre & Post Chastity

So first..get your minds out of the gutter.  I'm not about to show you a picture of my pre-chastity penis compared to what it looks like now.

Besides, neither one would be very impressive - depending on your perspective, frame of reference, etc.

However before I embarked ever-so-willingly (and unknowingly) upon a life of chastity controlled by my Mistress-Wife I used to be able to comfortably tuck my little thing between my legs for a rather feminine looking appearance...

I thought it looked pretty convincing, until I had to stand up and start prancing around.

But once chastity began and you're "life-locked" so to speak, your tucking days are pretty much over.  It's nearly impossible to squeeze the cage and it's contents between your girly thighs for it to remain hidden.

Instead, that little thing of yours isn't going anywhere or doing anything anytime soon.  

Love,

sissy terrie 💕 

Pretty Bows

 I'm sure I'm not the only sissy who loves the look of pretty bows....

 Sometimes their even prettier when put to a very different use...

 Love,

 sissy terrie 💗