Thoughts on Pegging

While yesterday's post was a rather thoughtful, tame and softer collection of thoughts on the subject of FemDom and Female Led Relationships, today's will probably make those of you with more prurient interests smile a little.

After having been on the "receiving end" of penetrative sex with Diane for so many years, I thought I'd share some things that have made it pleasurable - for the both of us...

First of all, foreplay is important.

The best sex always has plenty of foreplay.  Showing Her how much I want it turns both of us on.  So what if you gag a little?

Be realistic about size.

While most strap-on/pegging porn features leathered ladies with massive members, the fact of the matter is that our bottoms aren't made to accept "things" that big.  Find a dildo that is reasonable in size but can reach that special "P' spot.  Believe me, once She gets good at it, you'll love it!

A good lube is very important.

And you can never use too much.  More is better.  The application of the lube can be sexy in and of itself as evidenced by this picture.  It's also nice when She uses Her fingers to apply lube to our boi pussies!

Learn to help Her out.

You can assist Her in various positions.  Whether you "back onto it" or change your position to allow for more penetration, playing a more active role in the lovemaking will probably turn Her on!

Enjoy the moment.

Savor the intimacy.  It doesn't have to, nor should it, end when you have an orgasm.  Feeling Her inside of you is such a beautiful experience.  Let it last.

Love,

sissy terrie 👄

Living in a Female Led Relationship

Some mid-week thoughts and free advice on "living the life"...

After having written about some of our (Mistress and mine) more steamy scenes, those where She exerts Her sexual dominance and prowess over me, I'm often inundated with private emails and comments here telling me what a "lucky sissy" I am.  

I always love receiving those comments and hearing those words.  They are reminders that I should never take Diane's love for granted - NEVER.  They make me realize how many "men" out there who have desires that are very similar to mine never get the opportunity to experience some of the things I do.

At the same time a real life Female Led Relationship involves so much beyond the sex.  It's not always about chastity, feminization, strap-on sex, body worship, discipline, humiliation, etc.  Though all of these when taken in their totality play an important part in our lives, the fact is that as we've matured, they are not THE most important, nor are they the things that keep it all together.

The things that happen in our daily lives that are influenced by my surrendering control to Diane serve as the foundation of our relationship.  Let me give you some examples.  These are things I learned years ago from a dear friend, "Jane", a submissive wife to her dominant husband.  Diane and me knew the couple very well. As a submissive cd/sissy, I could relate to Jane and she even served as a "mentor" to me in some ways.  The following is a few pieces of advice she gave me.  Note that I've made "gender specific" changes to reflect our own specific situation.  She called them Jane's Rules...

Terry's Rules

Never React Immediately

Take your time responding - When something makes you uncomfortable, you don't agree with something, something angers you or you just flatly disagree, think about your response carefully before saying something.  

Compliment Her Regularly

Appreciate Her - Whenever She does something nice to or for you, take the time to thank Her properly. Point out Her achievements and praise Her.  Never let a day go buy without complimenting Her and thanking Her.

Don't be Upset When She's in a Bad Mood

Consider Her Feelings - When She's in a bad mood and not paying attention to your needs, don't whine or nag, be  patient and supportive of Her.  Be there for Her, just as She is there for you. 

Smile More - Be Happy

Make Her happier by being happy yourself - As Her submissive you must be attentive to Her needs and moods.  Your own mood is important as well.  No one likes being with a submissive who isn't in a bood mood.  Make an effort to appreciate the little things; this will put you in a better mood.  Your smile and happiness will make the world of difference to Her. 

Give Her Space 

Don't bother Her with too many questions - If you can tell She isn't feeling well, not talkative, etc. give Her some space and don't be constantly asking Her if you can do something for Her.  Ask once and if She says "No" then you must accept it, take a step back and wait patiently until you are needed.  

These are some of the suggestions Jane provided me.  There's more and they are all pretty simple and wise.  They may appear to be easy but they can be more difficult than you think to get used to.  Success starts when you, the submissive agrees to surrender control to your Dominant.  Once you've fully accepted that, it becomes much easier.  

Remember - "To thine own self be true."

Finally, a special shout-out to Jane who will always be a dear and loving friend.

Love,

sissy terrie 💕

The Babydoll "Hustle"

Happy Monday!

For those of us "of a certain age" I hope this song brings back memories.  

However, I just never had the opportunity to dance to it dressed line this!

 

 

Love, 

 sissy terrie 💗💗💗

Girly Gossip

Just some random thoughts on this lazy September Saturday morning...

• I spent about 2 1/2 hours out of chastity last night.  It took me a few minutes this morning to research how long it's been since I was unlocked that long.  Any guesses?  Answer below.
• The reason for so much "freedom" was a sexy and sensual "Bra and Panty" night with Mistress.
• Since we've moved to the desert southwest, I find that I'm not wearing pantyhose or tights as nearly as much as when we lived in a much cooler and downright cold New England Climate.  Anyone else ever undergone these types of fashion changes due to relocation?
• True story:  Diane sent me a dozen roses one day many years ago after a little spat we had.  One of my partners saw them and asked "What's the occasion?"  I told him we had a little argument and Diane must have felt bad.  "Well, it looks like someone's going to get laid tonight!"  He was right.  Diane made love to me with Her strap-on.
  
• Married couples often talk about "make-up sex."  I'd be curious to hear what it looks like between kinky couples, particularly in Female Led Relationships.
• About last night.  With both of us in bra and panties we could have been mistaken for a lesbian couple, but it didn't take Diane long to assert Herself and put on Her sexy "girl cock."
• Not that it matters but, we went through more lube last night than we ever have.  Thanks to Her  skillful gentleness, I wasn't that sore and slept like a baby.  I really did.
• I'm sure most CD's remember the first pair of panties they ever tried on.  Mine were the bottoms from a babydoll pajama set that belonged to my sister Jennifer.  Sorry Jen :)
• Always on the lookout for the next best chastity device, I saw the following under the product's "FAQ's":

Will wearing a chastity cage make my penis smaller?


We get this question a lot. While it is true that chastity fans often seek out smaller cages over time, this is mostly for the fun of being more snugly contained. We are not aware of any research showing that chastity devices cause lasting anatomical changes to the penis.

• I agree that there really isn't any research on the subject.  Fortunately, the medical field has more important things to focus on.  Maybe someday!  However, I can attest that having been locked up for 6 years, 8 months and 3+ days, you do undergo some physical changes.  My own limp clitty is indeed smaller and is the "victim" of penile atrophy.
• As we approach the fall season, sex blogs and other soft porn sites will start promoting "Locktober" as a month to either give chastity a try or intensify what you're already doing.  It's a nice idea but for couples like us, it's just another month in the lifestyle.
  
• I have a sissy friend who shall remain anonymous for now who's very versatile around the house.  Her Mistress has her doing all the housework and other domestic tasks.  But unlike me, she's pretty handy around the house.  Somehow, when she's doing her handy"man" stuff, she's still able to maintain some of her femininity with this unique tool belt..

• As for me, I tend to take the "contributing to full employment" route and tend to hire skilled technicians to do handyman things around the house.
• Last time I was let out of my cage for 2+ hours was April 1, 2020 - an anniversary of sorts for us.

 

Love,

sissy terrie  👄👄👄

Feminine Friday

Good morning!

I'm in a really good place this morning.  It's one of those rare days that I'm caught up on most things and I have most of the day to myself.  The day's been given an extra level of girly excitement when Diane expressed Her desire that I be ready to be Her "sexy girl" later tonight.

The comment resulted in an instant reaction within the confines of the little pink cage.  It also made me feel so "wifey."   I think I'm going to spend the whole day primping!

I hope your Friday is as girly as mine is going to be!

Love,

sissy terrie

 

 

Blame the Panties

Last Friday evening I found myself in some incredibly "sissy" panties.  The word sissy when used as an adjective congers up visions of highly feminized articles of clothing.

The panties were rumba style with rows and rows of ruffles across my tush.  It wasn't the only thing I wore that evening but it's what I was wearing when Diane asked me to do something very naughty for Karl.

I've mentioned this before and discussed it with several sissy friends in depth, and I'm not making excuses but....I could never do some of these naughty things unless I was dressed in something "sissy."

I'm blaming it on the panties.

love,

sissy terrie 💗

Sissy Panty Saturday

Taking a stroll down memory lane peeking at some of my favorite sissy panty's I've either worn or posted over the years. This isn't a formal "panty poll" or anything, but go ahead and pick a favorite...

Gingham panties are a rarity to begin with.  Add a cute little bow and prominent ruffles and lace across the bottom and you've got a panty to remember!

The gusset on this panty, unique in shape and prominent in size, is what really attracted me to this panty.  So did the ruffles.  They felt so nice on my butt.

Don't be so harsh or judgemental about this young girl.  Ruffled panties have also magically made me drop to my knees more than once.

As much as I've tried, I've never been able to find a source to buy a pair of these panties.  Diane reminds me from time to time that She's still waiting to see me in a pair.

Pre-chastity days things like this would happen and pop up.  Minor "accidents" happen.  It's no wonder that my sissy sister nancy's Wife insists on panty girdles.  But back to the panty itself.  I love the flowery front, lace and garter combo.

Here's another that I've not been able to find.  I'd even settle for the baby blue instead of pink.  And for me, that's saying somethin'.

And finally this picture is a sentimental favorite of Diane's.  It was taken the first time She ever made me show my panties to "someone else."  Fond memories.

Love,

sissy terrie 💓